Are You A Chronic People Pleaser?
Therapy For People Who Can't Say NO
Are you always saying yes, when you really mean no?
Then you might be a people pleaser.
A people pleaser behaves and conforms to the needs of others, even if it means putting their needs last. People pleasers frequently have poor boundaries, find it difficult to say “no”, and seem to be constantly saying “I’m sorry.”
A people pleaser wants everyone to feel good and will go to great lengths to make sure everyone around them is feeling good, even if they aren’t. A people pleaser neglects their own needs because they fear disappointing their family and friends. People pleasers tend to feel burned out, taken advantage of, physically and emotionally drained, and go above and beyond to be liked.
Do you recognize yourself in the above description?
Why am I such a people pleaser?
We sometimes get so caught up in our behavior patterns that we fail to see the warning signs that we are a people pleaser. Whether you have trouble telling others no, voicing your ideas, or pushing yourself too far, recognizing these signs can help you make necessary adjustments and establish appropriate boundaries in your relationships, there are strategies you can learn to change these self-destructive behavior patterns.
Is it easier to just go along?
You are so accustomed to accommodating people that it’s not only challenging but also terrifying to stop. You aren’t aware that every time you neglect your needs and sacrifice your interests, you are giving up a piece of your self-respect. As you continue to do this, you slowly give up your feelings, needs, and wishes. Quickly, you become accustomed to sacrificing your needs for others. As you constantly accommodate others, thinking its “just this last time”, you carve away your connection with yourself. Soon, life becomes dull and relationships feel empty.
Shocking Signs That You Are a People Pleaser
People pleasers feel like they have to be kind, considerate, and cooperative all the time. A people pleaser fears that if they say no, it might damage their relationship or somehow hurt others. Most times the guilt, fear, and worry of rejection or disappointing someone is overwhelming. When you try to say no, you are met with retaliation or an annoyed response that you would rather give in and do what is asked because it’s just easier that way.
If you answer yes to these questions, you may be a people pleaser:
Do you have a need to be accepted, understood, loved, and needed?
Are you agreeing with someone, even if you disagree?
Always apologizing for things that are not your fault?
Is it so hard to say no?
Your worth is centered around how other people feel about you?
The impact of people pleasing on your mental health is devastating. Now is the time to take steps to improve your life and feel better. It’s easy to get started.
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This Is What People Pleasing Does to You
You may be wondering if people pleasing is really that bad for your health and well-being. Constantly making yourself available to others can take an emotional toll on your health. People-pleasing can become a problem because continuously prioritizing others before yourself can hurt your mental, emotional, and physical health.
These are the reasons why people pleasing is so dangerous->
Constant people pleasing can trigger stress symptoms that may be affecting your health, even though you might not know it. Stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and your behavior. Knowing common stress symptoms can help you manage them. Stress that’s not dealt with can lead to many health problems, such as high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, and obesity. Don’t let people pleasing ruin your health.
People pleasing can lead to depression that causes you to experience a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest in things you enjoy. Depression affects how you feel, think and behave and can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems.
For some people, people pleasing may build resentments and may cause you to have feelings of disappointment or remorse. When a person thinks back to an event where they were a people pleaser, they may respond to it with regret and remorse with self-blame and wishing they had acted differently.
Relationship issues are common among people pleasers. If you are a people pleaser, all your relationships, whether romantic, family, co-workers, or friendships, may encounter issues at some point because of your people pleaser tendencies.
If you are a people pleaser, you might feel exhausted and run down. People pleasing can cause fatigue and can have harmful effects on your health and wellness. These can include reduced concentration, irritability, reckless risk-taking, poor sleep, and poor work quality.
Learn How To Stop Being a People Pleaser
Overcoming people pleasing means you must shift your attention to yourself.
Your well-being matters.
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It is possible to change.
You can stop being a people pleaser. You have the ability to transform and rediscover your strength, your voice, and revive the joy in your life.
Our counseling is unique and specialized to fit your needs. We do not offer a one-size-fits-all approach because we know everybody has different reasons for seeking therapy. Talking to a therapist can significantly improve your well-being and we will support your efforts to stop being a people pleaser. Help is available now.
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Change is possible. You can change and with our help you will learn skills that will transform your life. You will transform your life and rediscover your strength, your voice, and your passions. It’s a process of reconnecting with yourself and increasing our feeling of value and self-esteem. It’s a worthwhile journey of self-reclamation. Let’s get started now.